Bad Romance by Heather Demetrios – Releases June 13th – 5 stars!!
Each lie is something that’s mine, that my mom and The Giant can’t take away from me. Each lie reminds me I’m an actual person with rights and desires and the ability to make choices on my own. Each lie is power- control over my life.
This book is really fucking triggering. I’m going to say that first, because it’s both the worst and best part of the book. This book brought back some shit for me. It was actually incredibly difficult to read some of the scenes because I knewthose feelings. It was just… it was a lot.
I’ve run out of things to say, and we’re only on paragraph two. I can’t put this book into words. Bad Romance is so incredibly real and realistic. I wish it didn’t. I almost wish it hadn’t. All I can say is that reading this book was such an emotionally cathartic experience. And I think it will be if you’ve ever been through abuse, either parental or spousal. This is a story about getting out.
I guess I’m going to talk now about portrayal of abuse in media and how this book got it right, at least for me.
It’s not bad one hundred percent of the time, but if anything good happens, there are always strings attached.
➽ I loved that emotional abuse was given the same weight as physical abuse. Because abuse is not not about the actual physical acts – it’s about the fear, the feeling of pain and worry and like only one person in the world loves you but do they? do they really?
➽ I loved that friendship is what pulls Grace out of her tailspin. Nat and Lys were seriously the greatest characters, both hilarious and kind and funny but also complicated. The support group they formed was so good.
➽ Adding on to that, I’m happy it wasn’t about a romance pulling her out. There is a sort-of-romance which was sweet, but it was more playing into Grace’s character development than anything else.
➽ I loved the way Grace’s treatment by her parents played into her later relationship. As I’ve already said, I loved the portrayal of her mother as both a sympathetic figure and an abusive mother. I loved how nuanced her character was without being forgiven by her daughter. Usually, books either want to make the abuser full-on terrible or full-on redeemable and I hate that trend. More nuance without forgiving abuse because they had your best interests at hearts, please.
➽ Her inner monologue. God, Grace’s inner monologue around her parents was so fucking relatable at points that I couldn’t deal with it.
I don’t know how to sum up my whole feelings about this book, but damn it, y’all need to read this.